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FM-3 - Rapid Conversation Card

MomentTryProtect
Emotion or accusation arrivesLabel the apparent concern; mirror critical phraseDo not defend before discovering cause
Demand hides the outcomeAsk: "What must this accomplish, and by when?"Solve the need, not only stated position
You need a safe refusalAsk a genuine No-oriented question or state a boundaryDo not disguise a no as false possibility
Commitment sounds softAsk what remains contingent and who must approve/performNever repeat tentative status as confirmed
Conversation is stuckSummarize facts, concern, unresolved issue, and next decisionAvoid arguing past the real obstacle